Gentle Natural Birth

On being doula/midwife in training

Subhanallah… subhanallah..

Saye tak pernah terfikir, I would grow up to choose people oriented ‘career’. Saye tahu saye jenis apa, bukan jenis suka mix dgn org 😛 Tak berapa suka socialize, introvert.  Thats why agaknya pilih engineering, sebab majority knows engineer deals with machine. Though in reality, work involves more than that.

Tak sangka yang saye jatuh hati dengan doula/midwifery. Guiding ibu yang nak bersalin, or be there for them. Masa borak2 ngan Huda masa she’s in labor progress & chitchat sikit ngan Kak Faizah masa dia tanya bila nak pi hospital, tak berasa sangat rasa ‘I myself need supoort from support group’ 😛 Maybe sebab dah kenal diorang.

Tapi last few days, ada sorang akak dari group Gentle Birthing Group request me to coach her….. Dear God.. Alhamdulillah someone stranger trusted me to accompany her labor. But, labor is not something easy if I am to assist others, baru perasan 😛 I need to emotionally prepared.

Orang perempuan ni, sensitif. Memang tercipta sensitif, walaupun ada yang nampak kasar di luar. Time nak give birth, the sensitivity is at its peak. Bukan maksud masa nak bersalin, jadi cepat pemarah. Tapi apa saja kita cakap kat orang yg in labor, terus akan implanted in her mind and in her body, subconsciously. Kalau dia tak beritahu dia kecik hati ngan statement kita, her body will. How? Her body will show reaction sakit tak boleh tahan ke- in response to her environment.

Jadi, kena sangat hati-hati bila nak pilih perkataan. And most importantly, ni saya belajar dr akak2 group homebirth-saye mintak advise diorang- guide the mother to trust her own instict. Questions to ask ‘how do you feel?’, ‘what do you want to do?’. Masa nak bersalin lah, a woman will feel, she has the most power. Its her body and her baby. Susah nak explain. Let her have the power, not you. Kalau kat hospital, doktor je lah yang ada power. Tapi labor is not medical event. Macam kita nak poo, ada sapa2 boleh instruct kita tak when to go to loo, when to sit on the bowl. Tak, takda sapa.

So lebih kurang sama ngan give birth. Just be there to support her emotionally. Dont ever judge. Let her trust her instinct. Give her encouragement. Equipped ourselves with knowledge facts and stories. But again, jangan sesekali sama kan our story or other people’s story with her birth. Different people, different journey. Just as a guide to encourage her

I think, I need to read more on NLP, communication skills. Uhuhuhu.

Akak tu dah 39th weeks, water leaks & blood show for 3 days (termasuk hari ni). If it is my birth, I know what to do. But since it is not my birth, I can only guide, etc and pray to Allah…. please help her to keep calm, have faith in You and have a smooth easy dreamed birth..

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One Comment

  1. seronok baca.

    cuba untuk tidak stress sbb bila stress baby pun stress

    btw, zah lately mmg banyak minum air, tak sangka bila kita kerap kencingpun boleh membantu melembutkan rahim

    tq dear.
    inspiring!

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